Before you decide to un-screw your head, know that attempting to win other people over is a futile effort. Some people are infamously lucky but at no point will you ever win everyone over, despite one's good looks and charisma.
It's tough and we all do it. At some point, sometimes when we don't even know it, we try to win others over by promising empty things or by trying too hard. This in turn may make people hate you. Accept the simple fact that you will not please everyone in your life. You will be bound to piss someone (it will be massive amounts of people whether you know it or not) off throughout the course of your life. Often we make the mistake of being too honest, or by hiding something that comes out later. You've got to just accept it and not let these minor annoyances of human error get to you. This all stems from a momentary lapse I had with a few friends today in which I could feel their apparent anger through the frailty of their words.
In my case I would much rather have someone tell me that I am doing a shitty job to my face, rather than get the vibe or hear through the grapevine that they're pissed off about something. It's too often in today's society that people try to send messages through subtle hints, and when others don't understand them people get pissed off. Girls are infamous for attempting subtle hints. Don't mix your words in messages, be forthcoming in your speech and things will unmask in your daily activities.
Lastly, to bring this full circle, just accept that despite your potential good looks, award winning achievements, awesome stories, and near perfect charisma that not everyone will be 'won over' by you. This goes for me as well and my sometimes feigning of a cocky attitude has cost me a bit more than I would have liked in certain situations. So, I beg of you to not attempt to win other people over with anything but you being you. Anything else people will see through and quickly poke holes in your overreaching defense.
If you can relate to this, or have a story yourself, I'd love to hear it. - Cam
It's tough and we all do it. At some point, sometimes when we don't even know it, we try to win others over by promising empty things or by trying too hard. This in turn may make people hate you. Accept the simple fact that you will not please everyone in your life. You will be bound to piss someone (it will be massive amounts of people whether you know it or not) off throughout the course of your life. Often we make the mistake of being too honest, or by hiding something that comes out later. You've got to just accept it and not let these minor annoyances of human error get to you. This all stems from a momentary lapse I had with a few friends today in which I could feel their apparent anger through the frailty of their words.
In my case I would much rather have someone tell me that I am doing a shitty job to my face, rather than get the vibe or hear through the grapevine that they're pissed off about something. It's too often in today's society that people try to send messages through subtle hints, and when others don't understand them people get pissed off. Girls are infamous for attempting subtle hints. Don't mix your words in messages, be forthcoming in your speech and things will unmask in your daily activities.
Lastly, to bring this full circle, just accept that despite your potential good looks, award winning achievements, awesome stories, and near perfect charisma that not everyone will be 'won over' by you. This goes for me as well and my sometimes feigning of a cocky attitude has cost me a bit more than I would have liked in certain situations. So, I beg of you to not attempt to win other people over with anything but you being you. Anything else people will see through and quickly poke holes in your overreaching defense.
If you can relate to this, or have a story yourself, I'd love to hear it. - Cam
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